The Weekly Friday Feast

[Shaz51]

Ouch @Jacquesxx

I find out next week

Yes kidney disease stage 4 , causes other promblems my friend

Sending you hugs @Jacques

[Jacques]

Oh no @Shaz51 do you have to do dialysis yet, gentle hugs my friend I am so sorry.

It is tough, mums kidneys are failing too, she has to have her diabetes meds increased. She needs to make sure it does not do more damage to her kidneys.

Please keep me updated how you go, my thoughts and we'll wishes are with you my friend.

Jacques

[Shaz51]

Hello @Jacques,

No dialysis yet ,my friend xx

please give your mum hugs from me

how are you today my friend @Jacques

[Jacques]

Oh that is a plus in some bad news, the town I live in one has 2 dialysis machines, so I hope mum does not need to do it any time soon.

I am struggling at the moment, not sleeping at all and SH a lot, it is out of control.

I am trying my best to regain control. My girlfriend is helping to keep me grounded, she is a wonderful support.

[Shaz51]

oh no my special friend @Jacques xx

My girlfriend is helping to keep me grounded, she is a wonderful support-- this is good

sending you hugs

Sleeping makes a big differences x

[Jacques]

Thank you @Shaz51 I am so lucky to have such a wonderful woman in my life, I know lack of sleep is affecting me I am trying so hard to sleep.

[Shaz51]

Trying to make yourself sleep is hard my friend @Jacques xx

 having a wonderful woman in your life will make a difference

have you tried a Dvd movie , that you can relax wih your partner and even fall asleep  my friend

thinking of you xx

[Appleblossom]

Dear @Jacques I am glad there are good things in your life as well as stress. 

We all have to separate out the good and bad stress.

Relationships can help manage loneliness but add extra complications.

Find the right blessed boundaries that work for you in your relationship. It helps with working out ownership of problems. Everybody has them ... probs ...

It is so difficult to change patterns of behaviour that run deep and personal .... BUT IT IS POSSIBLE ... Keep finding healthy ways to manage stress.  So glad you are still around. 

I am silly and get attached easily to people on here and miss people who stop posting, but I am ok with it ... I apply the same "Buddhist Detachment" approach that I used with my music students ... Some people pass through and are only in our lives for a limited period.  With private teaching it is intense as it is 1-1 every week often for many years ... I had to apply a lot of grieving knowledge to manage those feelings and develop my own personal approach, but its ok it worked and was appropriate. 

I am muddling along .. "in the same puddle" ... a la @Decadian

Love Virtual Mum

Chat Later

[Former-Member]

That's nice @Apple blossom. 😊❤

[Jacques]

hi my virtual mum, hugs 🙂

you are right it is wonderful being in love, but it does add extra pressure and complications, but i think at the end of it all, it is worth it. 

I am so lucky as me and my girlfriend have worked out from the start to be clear communicators and to seek outside help when required. it is very tricky and we still struggle to communicate our needs clearly but we are getting their. 

i am trying so hard to keep myself on level ground, it is so hard with the roller coaster of emotions and i do struggle to keep them somewhat level but i am making sure i don't give up.

i am so sorry i have not been on here so much, i just have a lot going on in my personal life and i am struggling to give everyone enough time. i miss you a lot and think of you often, i am trying to have some contact on here each and every day. 

It is so nice you still think of me, you will always have a special place in my thoughts and heart, you made me feel so welcome here and we have such a wonderful friendship, i am so thankful in my darkest days you helped me through. 

take care my friend, i am so glad things are stable for you now. just keep paddling my friend 🙂

Jacques