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Re: Living with Loneliness

I agree about not expecting every part of loneliness to be fixed.

Re: Living with Loneliness

 

Re: Living with Loneliness

Many thanks for creating this thread. I think loneliness is something that I have dealt with for a pretty long time. For the better part of eight years I have lived on my own (I would say since at least 2014). I do have some very great friends however, my best friend is unfortunately overseas right now though -- but I do have my carer Caitlin who comes to check on me once a week. My best friend is in Sweden for another two months; I haven't seen my best friend at all this year due to her holidaying over in Sweden.  

 

There is good news in all of this though, and the good news is that I think I am now ready to have someone move in with me to live with me. For a while I have felt as though while I am currently a bit lonely there is definitely something I can do to change this for myself. And the way I will go about changing it is by finding a suitable room mate. 

 

While I spend a lot of time on my own I do also have plenty of things to do to pass the time. I am writing a novel, and doing a great deal of research for that novel. The research takes up a huge amount of time -- entire days sometimes. I am looking forward to spending more time on these forums as well so that I can connect with others and support others who may be feeling a bit more lonely. 

 

Warm wishes, 

 

Jake

Re: Living with Loneliness

Hi Evie!

 

Which particular aspects of your loneliness feel out of your control? 

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Hi. I'm lonely even though I have something to do every day. People I interact with. I shouldn't be lonely. I'm told I'm needy. I'm with NDIS. Am getting psychologist weekly. Will work on this. Thanks for your post. @pjc1965

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Evie. Are you on NDIS? I have psychology sessions thru NDIS. 

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I've had flatmates. The best were people I new. @Jake63 

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Hey There,

 

I get lonely too. There's no " shouldn't " when it comes to feelings, they just are. Make spacd for those lonely feelings. Personally I find going to my local library helps with feeling isolated. There's books to keep me company & sometimes you get chatting to a librarian or someone else who seems on their own. Also, there's activities for social events on the notice board at my library. Best of all, it's FREE!

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1. I guess the best way I could describe loneliness for me would be a sense of disconnection from others. 

 

2. Loneliness feels like disconnection, sadness, and emptiness, but it also triggers a sense of hopelessness for the future, causes other issues to feel way more overwhelming, and brings about feelings of distress where I am frantically trying to find something to fill the void. It has a negative effect on my mental wellbeing, and I can also feel the physical effects like impact on my sleep. 

 

3. In general, I feel most lonely in the night time. Across the year, my loneliness tends to show up more at times when the opportunities I usually rely on for interaction/connection aren’t happening for whatever reason, like when the people I live with are away, when my hobbies aren’t running, or when I go too long without seeing my psychologist. 

 

4. Mostly I end up just trying to deal with the loneliness as it happens by doing things like posting on social media, engaging with familiar/comforting content, and sharing my thoughts with my journal, though the sense of connection these bring isn’t as much or as meaningful as I necessarily need or want. One thing I suppose I do to manage the loneliness proactively is to try and minimise the length of time between my psychologist appointments.

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Thank you for sharing @puzzlingdino . You have some very important points there 🙂

 

I used to feel lonely in the evenings. Not anymore because I've found meaningful activities to engage in in the evenings.

 

I felt more lonely when I used to live with people. Now that I live on my own, I don't feel lonely at all!