Healthy Minds Webcast Series // Healing Trauma // Tues 20 Sep 7pm AEST

[BlueBay]

@Former-Member

i think you could be right. but also i feel that i am too vulnerable to deal with it.  it is still too raw.  i am too scared to deal with the whole abuse issue.

[CherryBomb]

@BlueBay yes, it can be so tough talking about a traumatic event, and it can be certainly triggering in itself. It's so important that you feel safe in talking about traumatic. @Love2Read and @Former-Member has touced on, perhaps it's a matter of finding a good fit - with both timing and therapist.  Finding someone that you feel comfortable, safe and able to work through difficult is important. If this doesn't happen, remember, that it's not your fault if you feel that there's a mismatch.It's ok to look elsewhere. Ask yourself what about the session didn't feel right? This can hopefully inform what to look for in you journey to recovery. 

[Former-Member]

Hi @Gypzi, that sounds hugely frustrating.  We're doing some in-house training through the Bouverie Centre at SANE soon so I might have a bit of a rummage around and see if I can find anything online that cover TIC.  I would hope so as not all organisations might be able to spare the staff and time for face-to-face delivery.  I'll post back here if I find anything.

[Former-Member]

That's a massive and very insightful question @Love2Read.  It links in with one of the questions that came from the audience during the webinar about the lack of family interventions.  When there is intergenerational trauma you really want to start helping everyone to heal so that those triggers are reduced.

It's great to hear that CASA is providing real assistance to yourself.  Have they made any recommendations for the children?  Have you found support for them?

[CherryBomb]

thanks for popping into the discussion. It's great to see members supporting one another, and more importantly sharing knowledge and experiences with each other. 

@Former-Member and I will be leaving this conversation shortly, but we'll leave this thread open so you can chat amongst yourselves. Just a reminder and a bit of heads up (given the nature of the topic) to be mindful of sharing content that might trigger others. If you're unsure about what to post, you can refer to the Community Guidelines

As @Former-Member mentioned earlier, we'll make a link to a recording of the webcast available soon.

Also, if you didn't get a chance to fill out the survey, you can do it here. This is important, as it let's us know how we can improve on provide you with useful online events. 

Once again, thanks for popping by to tonight's webinar session, and please stick around to chat with one another. 

[Jadzia]

@BlueBay I think you have already started to deal with it posting on here. I've lived with my trauma for over 30 years. At various times tried to deal, sometimes it is too raw and you can't, but each time you get a little stronger, or more out of what you tried at the time. Sometimes you can conquer the world, at others you just curl up, hide from the word and die inside. It does get better bit by bit.

After a recent trigger I saw a psychiatrist who told me there's two ways you can deal with PTSD, one is to avoid everything to do with it, the other is to desensitise yourself. That resonated with me. I spent 25 years avoiding. The past 3 dealing, and therefore desensitising myself. I am now living my life again. Now I know when things get hard that I am on the right track to recovery, and it enables me to keep putting one foot forward. 

I guess the point I'm making is it's ok to not do anything and nurture yourself, it's ok to do something and heal yourself but you need to feel safe with what you do. Sometimes we are like turtles, we come out, seek help then retreat. But eventually get there in the end. 

[Love2Read]

I've spent months and months trying to gain appropriate support for each of the kids. One has had support for a few months now, but it is limited. She falls between the cracks regularly - too severe for this agency, too mild for that one.
My middle child finally just received support beginning a couple of weeks ago & I'm hoping & praying they click so the help can progress forward, but the third one I am constantly knocked back in support because everything he feels is blamed on him having Autism. It's incredibly frustrating. *I* know it's not his Autism, but people won't listen.

I spend so much time fighting for supports, that I'm regularly left wiped out and struggling to function myself. It's beyond frustrating when the 'system' continually fails your family.

[Love2Read]

@BlueBay, I agree with what @Jadzia has said. Sometimes it *is* too traumatic and I've learned to step back & wait for things to process in the background until I feel ready to try again. Other times, the pain & tears let me know I'm on the right track and while it's incredibly difficult... it hurts whether I face it or not, so I'm trying, one step at a time, to face things piece by piece.

[Former-Member]

Yes, I think that failure to listen, or really hear, can be very true of the system @Love2Read.  It seems to particularly struggle when there is a mix of conditions that defies easy classification and short-term treatment.  It's a sign of a system under pressure.  Good on your for continuing to fight, even though it's at some cost.   I'm sorry to not have a clear answer for you tonight but if you'd like to give us a call in the Help Centre we can talk it through in more detail.  We'll be open at 9am tomorrow.

[Love2Read]

Thank you @Former-Member, I appreciate your response.

Cross classification of individuals seems to send the system to a screaming halt. Individuals don't fit in the neat little gov't prescribed boxes, and so they are left without support. Training across multiple sectors seems to be in a significant short supply, and too many organisations want the complexity of things to be someone else's issue. It's disheartening to say the least.

I'll call tomorrow and talk to someone, thanks again.